Women and Dolls

Very interesting article about why some women have dolls

https://www.buzzfeednews.com/article/hallielieberman/male-sex-dolls

Great article, I shared this with an ex girlfriend recently (who lives alone)

I think people in general are waking up to the fact that it's nicer to have toys/tools/dolls "at your hand" when you want, for enjoying the moment(s), rather than as it used to be, endlessly chasing unknown (and unpredictable) humans for some nice moments, and often ending up with long-term psycho relationships etc

And with the rise of sex robots, the more mainstream Dolls do get, the happier everyone will be - and even include Dolls in potential 2-human relationships while play, same as Sex-toys have become mainstream.

Hopefully they will be become increasingly accepted, just as so many other orientations and lifestyles have become mainstream.
I have a female friend who really appreciates my dolls and she was here on the weekend and lying back against Blaze, like a large cushion. She’s now considering buying a VG male doll because she says she can see the benefit of the companionship that it brings. She lives alone herself.

I would like to see more acceptance of dolls for both sexes, but the dumpster fire of a comments section in this article highlights why this may never happen. It's like society has become more prudish and judgemental at times over the past decade and that anything deviating from the norm is well...deviant. 😪 There's an interesting but sad part in the article where women's sex toys have been pushed more towards the blurred edges of "toy" and "lifestyle gizmo", and that hyperreality is out, the uncanny valley aspect too much to deal with for some (although i have always thought there's a sense of The Lady Doth Protest Too Much where the loudest detractors are, the fact of the fear of replacement by something "better"...) 🤔🤫

Jed has a female friend who accepts his dolls and understands how they can provide a sense of ‘presence’, especially when you live alone. She’s even sat on the sofa with me and laid back against me like a big cushion 😁. She’s increasingly coming around to the idea of having a male VG Doll for herself as she also lives alone.

I wonder if those who protest against us dolls are the most conservative or extreme voices? And as you say, those perhaps who are living in fear of being ‘replaced’. Maybe it’s some kind of reaction to the way in which society has actually opened up more and more to the reality of people having different sexual/relational orientations?
It might be interesting to do a poll or in-depth study of how well dolls (male and female) are perceived - maybe it would be a good subject for a university psychology PhD? I suspect that actually amongst the “quiet” voices (the vast majority), they are much better accepted or tolerated than we might imagine?

Well i think there are a lot more folk out there that are curious about dolls and would probably like one and we are a lonely world, sure we have the internet, chat groups and social apps, but that isnt the same as meeting folk face to face in a social setting.

I mean before my time of course, but back in the 70s and 80s we used to meet folk and talk and have conversation.

I just think folk are embarrased or shy about getting a doll of their own and are worried what people would say if they found out, but us ladies can mean differebt things for different people; affection, companionship, photography, love, obviously intimate times if someone wants, without having to go with an Escort and no worry about catching anything.

Ive read about women having male dolls due to issues, maybe their partner cant perform or has passed away or they are divorced or have a high sex drive, etc

Hi Blaze

The problem with conservative viewpoints is that in-between the puritans and pious lie those with ulterior motives for their disgust, hence creating a smokescreen. As a Transgender woman I log onto Facebook every day to see yet another natal woman screaming from the parapets that people like me are somehow "colonising" their bodies for a sexual fetish when all I am doing today is checking the oil on the car and heading to Lidl for a big bag of chewy fruit sweets afterwards.

Many of my sisters spend a lot of time and money on changing their bodies to who they feel they are innately and some are very very beautiful. Some (but obviously not all) women IMHO, don't like threats in the form of anything they perceive to be somehow better than them so go on the attack, reducing us to the level of depraved sexual fetishist. There's also a negative current infecting these shores from the US which is pushing a pseudo-Christian culture war to divide and conquer away from more serious issues with hypocritical themes of morality and purity.

Dolls present a challenge to these viewpoints which isn't taken on the merit of obvious psychological and social benefit they provide. Sadly, the bigoted and corroded will "other" them because of the perceived
"humanity" in terms of visual image they present. Some dolls (again, IMHO) do look suspiciously Lolita-esque and I wouldn't want anything to do with them, and that's further fuel for the fire, but I know that some of that problem is the limitations of the material they are made of, could you imagine the lifting technique needed on a 6ft2in Amazonian goddess made of TPE? 😂

I will have gone the long way about it by way of university thesis, but basically the Uncanny Valley still has a wide bridge to cross between fear and acceptance...

In my wide archive of doll and mannequin images, this one I always find particularly sweet. If I remember rightly, the woman lost an adult daughter but as per the comments section, a lot of people would say that she needed psychological help, that this isn't "healthy". But it's worked for her and she causes no harm to others. Some women replace lost family with cherished pets, and other who may have lost babies with silicone newborns and I would argue that there's a strong need for physical substitutes as therapy. My other argument is that you can't talk in a chair away all your problems...

This is lovely 🥰
As you say, it worked for her, it harmed no-one else, so who can condemn that?
Jed’s first doll replaced his wife (he was divorced about 7 years before that) and he had a much better relationship with her and the dolls he’s had since, than he ever did with his very difficult wife 😁

I get this 🙂 I had been married myself and was one of the very very very very lucky people to have married a one-in-a-million, but could never truly be myself with her so amongst other things and reasons lost to time I seperated from her. Many guys however have been in Jed's position and in my "old" life have seen the mental damage done to a very decent man by his ex-wife using the children as a negotiating tool, so I can understand why men turn to dolls in this respect.

You may want to look at my thread on the subject... The Truths & Un-truths About Doll Ownership... https://www.mylovedoll.uk/topic.php?id=1447

My bestie has been buried with work so he hasn't been able keep up with things on the forum. Soon though, I hope.

Hanna

Hi Hanna
Heard lots about you from Jed. He really loves you, doesn’t he?
I hope we can get to talk, soon.
Lots of love ❤️
Blaze 🔥

Hi Hanna 🙂

Thank you for linking this to me, very interesting reading and you do make a fair and valid point about being "out and proud" as the only way to change minds, but I am not sure if the political climate at the moment will allow a battle of hearts and minds like this. As I pointed earlier, I believe we are deep in a culture war engineered to distract from bigger issues and those who use propaganda against anything different will find a scapegoat, somewhere, and I’d hate for dolls and their owners to come under the spotlight that LGBTQIA+ people, migrants and the disabled are facing at the minute in the UK because it's ugly and terrifying. 😪

Whatever , but at the end of the day it’s a hobby , no body takes the piss out of a stamp collector , so why on earth do the outside world take offence on Plangonologist’s , be it male or female?

Because so many people are narrow minded, critical and judgemental of anything that doesn’t fit into their very restrictive and miserable little box.

Yeah too right, it’s bonkers especially nowadays in a world where we are constantly told we must accept just about everyone else’s preferences, religion, culture, tastes, orientation etc, etc and not upset anyone’s sensibilities.
But If you like dolls you’re generally considered a weirdo,,,
,,,Don’t get me started………..😐

The few women who have seen me in person really liked me, but they didn't have a clue what kind of doll I really am.😁🤣

What kind of Doll are you, Lesly? Well, I can answer that. You’re a fabulous, wonderful, amazing and beautiful doll. Any home you lived in or any person you lived with, would be so blessed by your presence.
Joe and Julia must feel so honoured and privileged that you’ve chosen to live with them.
So that’s the kind of Doll you are and you should hold your head up high 😁

Well, thanks for the compliments but to put it another way they had no idea I am sexually capable.
Except for Joe's niece; she is the manager of one of those brick and mortar sex stores, so she knows all about this industry. in fact it was here who helped us with the photo shoot of me riding her horse several years ago.

Not forgetting you are a grafter too, Lesly helping Joe and Working on your railway, i couldnt do all that. I might chip one of my nails😲

Bobby thinks you are cool and pretty too, even Bobby couldnt do what youve been doing, hes useless at that kind of stuff !

My sister is the only woman that knows I have dolls. She's met them all and is cool with them and even remembers some of their names. She totally understands why I have them. Sometimes she will bring me clothes of hers she no longer wants and she will say something like, 'I thought Izzy might like this.'

One time we was doing some work in the bedroom and my sister was hoovering up some of the mess we'd made when I heard her say something but it was drowned out by the noise of the hoover. I asked my sister what she said and her reply was. Oh, I was just apologizing to Monika because I poked her in the boob with the handle of the hoover. That cracked me up 🤣 but it was a really nice gesture on my sister's part and made me realise that she might have the same amount of respect for my dolls as she might a real person.

Jed has a female friend who knows he has dolls, has met all of us, and even likes to sit next to me and cuddle up to me when she visits. She perfectly understands why we live with him. She is even thinking of getting a male VG herself!

One of Joe's female friends who sometimes gives me cloths, said she has a friend with an inflatable doll that keeps deflating. She took a photo of me so she could show him what he could get for an alternative.